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Millennials and Motherhood: A Total New Venture

How Millennial and Women from the 70’s See Motherhood


You may have heard a lot about millennials! Some even said millennials are a myth. For others, millennials represent a whole new breed of human beings. They completely think and do things differently from older generations.

This Mother’s Day and throughout the month of May, we are inviting different generations of women to confront their thoughts on motherhood. This is our way of celebrating mom and reflect on the colossal job of ‘being a mom’.

First-generation millennials (1981 -1991) and young millennials (1991 – 2001) face older generations of women (1970 – 1980) in a diverse shock of thoughts.

So far, respondents from different countries have shared insightful, honest, and beautiful views on the institution of motherhood.

Discover all these amazing women and read their testimonies.

COMMON TRAITS


Mom’s love is priceless

If I were to put a price on my mother’s love, I would say that she loved us infinity times infinity, and that we love her infinity times infinity, I wouldn’t trade her for the world.”, says Rivka, a young millennial from Boston (USA).

Her statement somehow resonates in all participants’ opinion, whether they were young millennials, second-generation millennials or from older generations of women. When it comes to a mom’s love millennials prove to think just like older generations of women.

They tend to understand that a mom’s job is difficult and that there may be time when a mom doesn’t treat their children as expected, that life can get in the way and cheat kids from some precious mom’s time. But, whatever happened, in the end, moms do what they do out of love.

Sara, a New York mom from the decade 1970–1980 simply sums it up like this, “As humans, of course we get on each other’s nerves, but, the love we share is infinite…”

Finally, Ruth Tania, another young millennial from Ottawa (Canada), explains why a mom’s love is priceless.

“What price can I put on my mother’s love? There is none. I can’t compare my mom’s love. Whatever how many times I have disappointed her, I made her cry, she still loves me, takes care of me. And never loses hope on me. She always wanted the best for me. Even after everyone stops believing in me she remains the one on my side. ”

Reinventing motherhood?

Most participants and particularly millennials believe that motherhood should be reinvented and for various reasons.

Such thoughts clearly echoes with Bing, a first-generation millennial from Toronto (Canada), who believes that “we need to rethink the role moms play in our time“.

“Definitely it should be reinvented, as the world has so overwhelmingly changed. It is no longer the confined environment where moms and kids can stay close without border from the outside. Today, the mass media, and internet and the work-life style have put much pressure on the so-called motherhood, ” adds Bing

For Magdalande, a young millennial from Chicago (USA), it’s also a definite YES. She reasons that “motherhood is outdated because there are some people who still feel that motherhood only applies to the person who gave birth. If we take for example kids that lost their mother at a young age, they could get that motherly from a stepmother, a family member, a teacher, and etc.… who is willing to because it’s not an easy job.”

The idea of rethinking motherhood is also present in many other millennials’ testimonies. Belise, a first-generation millennial from Ottawa (Canada), believes that motherhood is already going through changes. “Being a mother in 2017 is very different from being a mother in the 80’s. Most mothers these days work full-time or are students full-time,” mentions Belise.

For Mimie, a woman from the decade 1970-1980, “motherhood is evolving because there are many women who either choose to become mothers in ways that society may deem non-traditional or decide to not conceive a child for myriad reasons. A woman carrying her own child is a beautiful, magnificent experience to witness and to go through. But, to me, it is just one of many forms: motherhood is about the positive influence a woman has on each child in her life; it’s about giving love in a way that isn’t fleeting—you love, unwaveringly.”

Similarly, Tina, a young millennial argues that “we need motherhood to be more encompassing of working moms, and be more supportive of women who are mothers”.

However some participants agree that motherhood is everything but outdated.  An opinion clearly shared by Rachel Frédérique Bruno, a Florida mom.

“Motherhood would never be outdated. Because, for me, mothers have a common goal: happiness of their children by providing, protecting and caring for them,” says Rachel.

Our participants show that both generations of millennials (1981-1991 & 1991-2001) think that motherhood should be reinvented. Nevertheless, the hope to have children of their own is as present as it used to be in older time. We humans particularly women seem to have this need to transfer our love to another human being, to cherish, protect them and push them in life. Could this be what is called the maternal instinct or parental instinct?

Diversity of thoughts: the meaning of motherhood

When asked what being a mom means to them, there is common thread in participants’ answer: loving and caring.

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Generation of women from decade 1971-1981 – VoiceOasis image

Carolina, a woman from Janeiro (Brazil) who was born during the decade 1971 – 1981, defines motherhood as “a love greater than everything and being a warrior to face all the tribulations of everyday life.”

To other participants, motherhood has also other meanings. For instance, Deisy, a first-generation millennial from Santo Domingo (DR) , compare mom to goddess.

“For me, being a mother is to be a goddess, a goddess who gives birth, whom with love and pain brings a creature to the world to continue the course of generations,” says Deisy (translated from Spanish, see participants’ testimonies for original text.

Cherlyne, a woman from the 1971-1981 generation from Florida (USA), also brings a new perspective to the meaning of motherhood. She sees being a mom as  making sacrifices for your children. “It means being always ready to make sacrifices for the sake of the child (en)’s well-being“, says Cherlyne.

Finally, motherhood is “being a role model for your young ones,” says Mariana, a young millennial. She adds, “If you want to raise good human beings you want to start with yourself.”

We are here confronted to such a diverse array of thoughts when it comes to motherhood. It’s about loving, caring, and making sacrifices for the benefit of another human being. Motherhood is also seen as an institution that surpasses any normal woman or all women put together. It’s about being a warrior or take on a goddess character.

Finally, it is about “Making sure you are a role model and a person that your children can look up to in the future“, to quote Jayneisha, a young millennial from Chicago.

Whatever their stance, millennials and older women alike agree that being a mom is about loving and caring.

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Inspirational Moms

Through this exercise we learn that moms are pretty awesome. Most participants confess that they have been inspired by their moms to create a family of their own. On top of that several women mentions having been inspired by both their moms and their grand-ma.

This can be seen through Veronique‘s words, a woman from the 1971-1981 decade.

“My mom and grandmother are the only reason I want to be a mom because I want to share with my kids all that I received from them,” reveals Veronique

Naya, a young millennial from Florida (USA) also think the same way. “Yes, my mother absolutely inspired me to have my own family one day“, confides the young woman.

Josephine, an Ottawan woman from the 1970’s brings a different approach. She admits never even thought about motherhood before she actually became a mom.

“I love (d) mum dearly but never thought about kids that way as I was always independent free-spirited who never saw myself as a mother even after marrying and endured this. When my daughter was conceived, I did not think I was ready or would be as good as mum. My husband and I got my mum to come stay with us to help care for my daughter for the first year and this, was invaluable.”

To conclude, not all women feel inspired to have a family of their own. Some women think motherhood definitely needs to be rethought. And if one day they have children they want their experience to be different from their grand-mothers’ or mothers’ as echoed in Bing’s testimony.

“I have been actually much discouraged by seeing the life my mom has led all these years. It seems to me, she has fired her own life to fuel the operation of whole family, by working every day outside and doing household chores inside. She has no time for herself and becomes quick-tempered and has developed much grudge as time goes by. She seems lost at the fact that why she has done so well as a mom and wife but still not happy at all,” confides the young woman from Toronto (Canada)

Similarly,  other women just don’t want to have children and that’s okay because motherhood should also be about freedom. The freedom to reach deep inside yourself and find out where you truly belong.


Note: This blog will be updated throughout the month of May to include new participants testimony and keep the discussion alive.

Are you a millennial? A women from 1970’s? Are you interested in the topic of motherhood, either in rethinking it or coming back to old values? Join the discussion.

Stay tune for participants complete answers and to find out how millennials’ view on motherhood differ from older generations of women.

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Name-Blind Résumé: What happens if ever we meet face to face


This April, the Liberal Government announced a new recruiting pilot project that aims to ‘reduce unconscious bias’ and increase  minority job seekers’ chance to land a job. As a starter, 6 federal departments will take part in the ‘name-blind’ hiring process to test the effectiveness of such process. However, this initiative raises several disturbing questions!


You have been looking for a job in your field, one that will fulfill your desires and matches your skills. It’s been 5 five years now since your engineering master degree is on your wall. You stop dusting it because it reminds you of all the endless and unsuccessful efforts you’ve put in to find a job where you can finally apply your genius skills in designing software.

As studies show however the chance for a female black candidate like yourself to find such job in Canada is very thin because your name does not sound Anglo enough. You then decide to take a leap of faith and try the new name-blind recruitment policy that the federal government just put in place. You sent a résumé without your name on it. You were also careful enough to change any information that may lead the recruiter to think you are not from the White Anglo majority group.

Oh! Miracle! You just got your first phone call and you’re invited to an interview. Oh! Think God your accent didn’t betray you, you thought. These university years going out with friends have finally paid off. Now you just need to get ready for that interview.

Nevertheless, you can hardly control your nervousness because you cannot help feel like somehow you tricked the recruiter. And you just used the new recruiting policy.

Would they have called you if you haven’t used this recruiting approach?

Will the interview be awkward because they were expecting someone with a different physical appearance?

It’s a good thing you took out your LinkedIn profile photo. Should you do the same for your other social media profiles?

Will they cancel the interview if they find something on the Internet that show them what you really look like?

In all this anxiety, you don’t have the strength nor the time to prepare for your interview tomorrow. Oups!

Welcome to the new proposed color-blind resume policy!

This scenario is purposely far-fetched to portray minority job seekers job hunting experience. It also reflects what U of T Sociology Professor Jeffrey Reitz recommends for the success of such initiative.

“To conduct name-blind screening, he said, recruiters must remove any information on a resumé that would show the ethnicity of the person, such as name, birth place and membership in an association before coding the candidates in the talent pool”, recommends Reitz (the star.com)

The fact is, we live today in the digital age. Even if recruiters, exempt of bias, remove personal information from a résumé, candidates would still have a big job to do in clearing the Internet from any obvious information that can betray their origin.

A very trendy topic

The Canadian Government is now joining the bandwagon to test the success of name-blind recruitment for minority candidates. The advocate of this trendy technique, liberal MP Ahmed Hussen, said in Parliament last year that  “It is crucial that Canadians who have got the grades, skills, and the determination succeed.” (from CBC)

As a matter of fact, ‘resume whitening‘ seems very popular and may have even doubled the chances of  ethnic candidates to receive callbacks as reported by the Guardian. It has been tested in European countries such as France and United Kingdom.

In France, the idea is “to strip résumés of anything that could tip off recruiters to a person’s racial, ethnic and national background or other information that could be used to discriminate — name, age, sex, even residential postal code.” (Washington Post)

Name-blind hiring processes are also in place in the private sector in the US and in the Canadian musical sector.

The Canadian governmental chapter of the name-blind recruitment is in direct answer to a joint study conducted by the University of Toronto and Ryerson University, which proves that Asian candidates have a very less likely chance to receive callbacks after sending out resumes. And it’s all in the name as recruiters will likely throw away resumes with non-anglophone names.

In fact, “applicants with English-sounding names were 35 per cent more likely to get callbacks than those with Indian or Chinese names with similar results in Toronto, Montreal and Vancouver”, said Philip Oreopoulos, a U of T economist who co-authored the study. (Ottawa Citizen)

Six departments will be part of the pilot project: National Defence, Global Affairs Canada, Immigration, Refugees and Citizenship Canada, Public Services and Procurement Canada, Environment and Climate Change Canada and the Treasury Board of Canada Secretariat.

Despite the good intention of this recruiting initiative, it raises uncomfortable questions.

What happens during the phone call if you have a foreign accent?

According to previous tests, your name and other information that may lead to discrimination will be concealed. How exactly this will be done is not sure.

If federal recruiters will be responsible for clearing applications from information that could lead to discrimination, how will the government make sure that recruiters don’t have bias themselves?

Despite this clearing process, how well will this scenario play for you if  you don’t speak like the majority?

How will the so-awaited phone call go?

What happens to candidates with extensive foreign education, work experience, and skills?

Another disturbing concern is on the recognition of newcomers’ foreign credentials and work experience.

What if you are a highly qualified candidate with foreign education and work experience? What if all that can make you suitable for a job is international competences, education, work experiences?

Will the color-blind recruitment process prevent newcomers from finding jobs because adding these important professional skills might reveal their non-Anglo affiliation character?

What will happen to existing measure for minority candidates?

“We hope as the government moves proactively to ensure diversity in hiring it will review the existing program and strengthen it to ensure the intentional inclusion of racialized and indigenous job seekers,” said Debbie Douglas of the Ontario Council of Agencies Serving Immigrants. (thestar.com)

If the government is applying a color-blind hiring policy, how will it affect the policy to facilitate women, people with disability, Natives and people from visible minority group? Will this measure no longer be in force?

How will name-blind recruitment affect cultural diversity?

celebrating ethnic differences and cultural diversity can only be beneficial for a country. Unfortunately, while the proposed bill is acknowledging an unacceptable level of racism in the Canadian society, it is in the same time denying the beauty and benefits of diversity.

Why not promoting foreign skills, the richness of various cultures, the beauty of different accents?

Why not fostering a cultural work environment in which the country can benefit from different ways of doing things?

In this new technological time, diversity is key.

Why not instead coaching recruiting managers to better understand different cultures, ethnicities, to learn more about others and put their fears of anything different at rest?

We hope the questions raised here can help in bettering the recruiting process.

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Chasing sunset: At the crossroads between nature and #tech


It was so beautiful! And it stretched out right in front of us, all around us in an ephemeral vision of a dazzling November sunset. Completely out of this world. We all know that it was there for only minutes, maybe seconds. 

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Universal love and conscience


Let us be guided by our universal conscience, by our love for one another.

Let love be the healing process of the world.

Let’s value diversity, differences, multiculturalism, and equality for all.

And above all, let’s value LOVE for one another despite everything that seems to divide us because we are all from the same species, we are all humans.

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Canada Day 2016: Diversity era?

Yesterday was the 149th Canada Day, which to some extent could be considered as a prelude to Ottawa 2017 that will celebrate the 150th anniversary of the Canadian Federation throughout the year 2017. Several events and activities were held across the country. And to no surprise diversity was the hot topic at Parliament Hill.