This young millennial talks about motherhood
“There are some good mothers out there who still know the meaning of motherhood, they might not have money to please us everyday, but they have love in their heart, they are caring and you can tell that if they had the world they would have given it to us”, says Rikva Louis.
Inspired by her mom, this second-generation millennial (1991-2001) woman talks about motherhood as a labor of love.
1 – What does ‘being a mom’ mean to you?
Motherhood means being able to nurture your children, caring for them, loving them unconditionally, be there for them no matter what, rich or poor. Be there when they need you, console them, comfort them, be there when they have their first heartbreak, being able to tell them that everything will be ok, be there when they graduate Pre-K, elementary school, middle school, high school and college, be there to show them the meaning of love, teach them things that they will use when they get married.
2 – Do you think motherhood is outdated or should be reinvented?
Motherhood is not outdated because we have some mothers out there who are willing to go through anything for their child, for example my mother would starve herself just so we could eat and be happy, we would get everything we want, but she would wear the same old clothes over and over again when we would be wearing clothes that were in style. There are some good mothers out there who still know the meaning of motherhood, they might not have money to please us everyday, but they have love in their heart, they are caring and you can tell that if they had the world they would have given it to us.
3 – Does your mom inspire you to have a family of your own some day?
My mother inspired me, she was such a caring person, I would say that I would never had children, it wasn’t until one day she stopped me and said, do you think I love you? I said yes, do you think I was ready to have children when I had you? I said no. She said you are the best thing that ever happened to me, therefore I wouldn’t let anybody or anything in the world hurt you, every time you say that you don’t want children you offend God because he gives and takes. Since that day, I realized that I had the best mother in the world, even though she didn’t have much but the love she shared with us makes me realize that I want to be a mother, a wife and the best that I can be, because having children means everything, I will be their provider, their healer after God and their everything.
4 – As a parent, what would you change from the way your mom is dealing/ has dealt with motherhood?
As a parent I wouldn’t change anything. My mother had 5 of us and she was a single mother; she was strong because to raise 5 kids in Haiti with no husband is like being in a battlefield, she did everything that she could have done for us. There were times that she cried, there were times that she was depressed, there were times that she wished that she was like our neighbors, there were times that she wished that she had a husband or even a boyfriend who would treat us like their own. She was always afraid to bring a guy home because she had mostly girls and she didn’t want anything to happen to us.
5 – What price would you put on your mom’s love?
If I were to put a price on my mother’s love, I would say that she loved us infinity times infinity, and that we love her infinity times infinity, I wouldn’t trade her for the world.