HR professional shares her thoughts on motherhood
As a woman from the 1970’s, Josephine takes the talk on motherhood to a different venue by opening a window into motherhood from her time as well as the boomers’ generation.
Motherhood is not one size fits all, it is unique to individuals. Some good, some bad and some downright ugly – not literally!! – says this mom.
My mum passed away in 2013 but was a very wonderful mum. She was a high school teacher and later school Principal before retiring. Mum enjoyed being a mother in the literal sense as she was there for everyone not just us her kids. Herself and dad were married for 50 years to her death and in that time, never once saw them argue. She always told me and my sisters, it’s all about patience and communication. Mum was the stricter of my parents and took the stick and carrot approach to parenting with me and my sisters. This, was the African way of parenting and despite the strictness, would do absolutely anything for us. I take similar approach with my parenting, strict when I need to be and soft at other times, listening and being supportive.
1 – What does ‘being a mom’ mean to you?
Being a mum to me is :- unconditional love, guiding my daughter, providing for her (not talking about just day-to-day but future and longer term). Mum gave me money for deposit for buying my first home, I intend doing same for my child. This to me, are part of being a mum or parent..
2 – Do you think motherhood is outdated or should be reinvented?
Motherhood is not one size fits all, it is unique to individuals. Some good, some bad and some downright ugly – not literally!!
3 – Does your mom inspire you to have a family of your own some day?
I love (d) mum dearly but never thought about kids that way as I was always independent free spirited who never saw myself as a mother even after marrying and endured this. When my daughter was conceived, I did not think I was ready or would be as good as mum. My husband and I got my mum to come stay with us to help care for my daughter for the first year and this, was invaluable.
4 – As a parent, what would you change from the way your mom is dealing/ has dealt with motherhood?
My mum in all honesty, was a very good mum, may her soul RIP!! I still feel like I am playing catch up as motherhood did not come naturally to me. However, I am eternally grateful for having had her in my daughter’s formative years, coming every year spending time with her. This has helped shape my daughter to be the confident, driven individual she is today!!
5 – What price would you put on your mom’s love?
Seeing she has since passed away, priceless!!