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Wonder Women: The Parenting Role of Contemporary females

She is a fighter, a ‘warrior’, a mythical character, a ‘goddess’. She is made of love, but she knows pain and she is willing to ‘make sacrifices’. This strong and yet gentle creature has management skills and bear the power of life. She is the ultimate Wonder Woman. She is a contemporary mom.

Beyond this poetic description that is present in many definitions of motherhood, what is the role of contemporary women in parenting?

One of the most popular words of our time is evolution. We’ve heard a lot about how much our generation has evolved, made progress in numerous areas. We live in a time where technology has fundamentaly revolutionized our way of life, our way of communicating with each other.

And yet, it would seem that one of the oldest role in life has remained the same: being a mom. Despite ongoing challenges, women remain the cornerstone in a child’s life. What can explain such stagnation in parenting?

This month of May, we have invited a group of women from four different countries (USA, Canada, Brazil, and Dominican Republic) to share their thoughts on motherhood. From this talk, it turns out  that motherhood is a one of the most difficult and demanding jobs in the world.

This is the tale of motherhood, it is a labor of love, a love made of sacrifices and self-denial. The mother appears to be the most prominent parental figure in a child’s development.

Being a mom means love. Children, no matter how old they are, and even if they won’t admit it, always want their parents’ approval and love especially when they think they did something wrong. It is important as a mom to let them know that they are loved no matter what”, says Rachel Frédérique Bruno

Many questions are raised from our Talk on Motherhood.

  • What is a woman’s role in a child’s life cycle?
  • Are women more involved in children’s education than men? If yes, why?
  • Do social pressure compel women to be more involved in raising children than men?

A study from Pew Research argues that mothers today face tougher challenges than men. The study consisting of about 2020 interviews conducted among Americans suggests that contemporary women with children live through tougher times than mothers from three decades ago. Women in present times are also more criticized about their lack of good parenting skills.

“Mothers are seen as having the more difficult job, but they are also judged more harshly than are fathers.” – (Pew Research)

How 18 women from different generations depict the female role in parenting


Generation X and Y
Generations of women – X and Y

Many women from our Talk bring forth similar reasoning to the Pew Research study. One of the hardest truth is that women’s condition has progressed, allowing them to be on a par with men in several social areas. Therefore, the female parent’s social responsibility has increased while her duty at home has remained the same, thus the motherly Wonder Woman figure.

“Being a mother in 2017 is very different from being a mother in the 80’s. Most mothers these days work full-time or are full-time students. So, it’s hard to manage, but we are always trying to make it happen,” observes Belise Nda, a millennial mom.

This thought also echoes in Rachel Frédérique Bruno‘s statement. “It was always interesting to see, when growing up, how my mom would deal with a husband and 5 kids. None of us felt neglected. Even now that we are all grown up, she is still there for all of us, and she is never tired. This is love.”

Deisy Toussaint defines motherhood as ‘being a goddess‘, a mythical character who is strong enough to endure unbearable pain to bear life and “gives birth, whom with love and pain brings a being to the world to continue the course of generations.”

To Josephine Keyamo the role of a mom is to provide ‘unconditional love‘, guidance, “providing for” your children for future and longer term. Josephine recalled “Mum gave me money for deposit for buying my first home, I intend doing same for my child.”

A woman’s role as a parent is then to be able to love her children unconditionally, to make sacrifices for the well-being of her children and yet to provide for them financially. Isn’t it what today’s society is expecting from a female parent?

What is the role of a woman in the child’s life cycle?

It’s to be the wonder woman in a child’s life. This idea is predominant in most testimonies.

“Being a mom means stop living for yourself and breathe for your child(en). It means being always ready to make sacrifices for the sake of the child (en)’s well-being,” argues Farah Cherlyne Rondeau.

Phaiede Lafleur conquer by saying that on top of everything else, “I’ve come to the conclusion that motherhood is about SACRIFICE. The sacrifice that I’ve seen mothers made so that their children could have a better life is INCOMPARABLE.”

It’s also “about the positive influence a woman has on each child in her life; it’s about giving love in a way that isn’t fleeting—you love, unwaveringly”, points out Mimie L.

It is an ongoing fight to raise the citizens of tomorrow.

Carolina Eichler confides that “being a mother means a love greater than everything and being a warrior to face all the tribulations of everyday life”.

While a woman has to wear so many hats as a parent, it is normal to wonder about the male role in a child’s life.

Veronique Dolce is advocating for a stricker and past form of motherhood where “all mothers knew that being a mother was the most important job in the world”. In her eyes many contemporary “mothers fell to assume responsibility and that’s why now we have a big trend of single father”.

  • Do fathers have it as tough as mothers?
  • Do fathers have to make equal sacrifices, while being equally loving, caring, and present in their children’s life?

This is unlikely that fathers face the same social pressure to be supermen or wonder dads as many studies indicate.

In a study about Single Motherhood from the American Prospect, single motherhood is portrayed as being the norm since the 1960’s while single fatherhood is not that common. Some seem to literaly attribute the sole responsibility of birthing and raising children to women.

A conservative politician named Charles Murray said in the 1990’s about the father’s role that: “As far as I can tell, he has approximately the same causal responsibility as a slice of chocolate cake has in determining whether a woman gains weight.”

It would seem that almost three decades later women haven’t reached parity with men when it comes to raising children. Still today, the mother is more likely to be held accountable than the father.

Generation Z millennial (1989-2004) standpoint on motherhood



  • Should the fact that women bear life increase her responsibility in child-rearing, diminishing the father’s role?
  • Could it be that unconciously women assign themselves the tougher parenting role?
  • Or do social rules confine women in the tougher areas of parenting, giving male parents the freedom to thrive in society?

The answers to these questions are not clear, but let’s see what our young millennial participants think about that.

Bing Yao expresses strong opinion about the role a mom should play in a child’s life in the present-day. She is advocating for social changes on behalf of motherhood.

“Today, there is increasingly tighter links between motherhood and social environment, that mom is no longer the only one to decide how to behave so that a positive effect could be produced. The mass media, the school, other organizations and of course the husband and other family members could exert great influence and therefore influence [the way a mother is] dealing with motherhood,” argues the young millennial.

Rivka Louis narrates tales of sacrifices her single mom made for her well-being and her siblings while denying her own happiness. “She was always afraid to bring a guy home because she had mostly girls and she didn’t want anything to happen to us“, recalls the young woman.

To Marianna Hernandez, the role of female parents is to be “a role model for your young ones. If you want to raise good human beings you want to start with yourself.”

The idea of role model is also shared by millennial Jayneisha Ivory. In her eyes, motherhood is about “making sure you are a role model and a person that your children can look up to in the future” and taking seriously “your responsibility as a parent”.

Ruth Tania points out that mothers have an obligation to care for and protect their children.

“Motherhood I think it’s as soon as you feel the needs to protect someone else as if it was a part of your body, I can even say you”, argues this young millennial.

Naya Ileran‘s approach to motherhood is the ultimate love, loving your children more than yourself. “Being a mom is suddenly caring for that one person, and loving that person more than you love life itself, it’s being selfless, it’s being tired but always smiling”, says the young woman.

Tina Roberts (pseudonym) admits that her mother ‘has inspired’ her to ‘focus on her career’.

“I saw how many things you actually can’t do because you have children, and my mother had 5 kids and I could see how it impedes a woman from building her own dreams.”

“It’s certainly harder to do many things with children, but not impossible. So she certainly inspires me to do better for myself and the world around me”, adds the young woman.

Finally, Magdalande Pierre rejoins her millennial group when it comes to the role of mothers in parenting.

“Motherhood to me means to take the responsibility to care for a being mentally and physically; to teach that being how to take care of themselves and become independent. Most all to give them guidance, love, and all the other qualities that they would need to get through life.”

In conclusion, most participants in our Talk on Motherhood depict the role of women in parenting as literaly being a Wonder Woman.

Older women focus on the needs to know how to ‘love unconditionaly’, to care mentaly, physically, and financially for her children, to ‘protect them’, to ‘sacrifice’ herself for the ‘well-being of her children’. Young millennials see mothers as a ‘role model’, someone capable of taking ‘responsibility’ and who is always ‘present’ for her children.

So now to answer another question raised from this talk:

Do social pressure compel women to be more involved in raising children than men?

There is not a definitive answer to this question. However, we can refer to some internationaly social pointers to provide some leads to solutions. Looking broadly at the world, there is in every society rules that women are supposed to follow.

Just think about the widespread belief of maternal instinct, this belief that women has biological clock compelling them to become mothers. Some beliefs go as far as to say that mothers has a sixth sense to know what’s going on with their children even when children are far away.

On the other hand, it seems that there is no such a thing as paternal instinct. There is nonetheless a wide array of worldwide psychologists and studies to still demonstrate that motherhood and child-rearing are a woman’s obligation.

One Japanese study maintains that “Maternal Instinct Is Wired Into the Brain” as reported by the New York Times. Another one pretends that “men have lower level of testosterone when they become a father” and that taking care of their children “may accelerate the decline of the male hormone”. (Source: coparents.com).

Does society compel women into confined and pre-defined parenting roles? The answer seems to be a definitive YES. Women are seen as care-givers, but more as nurses than doctors in the sense that they are being dictated how to provide this care, this love to their children.

Once again, the woman’s right is denied.

  • Shouldn’t a woman be free to decide to have kids or not, without being shamed by society?
  • If a woman decides to become a mother, should this choice happens at the expense of her happiness?
  • Shouldn’t mothers be allowed to pursue dreams like anybody else?

What can women do to avoid feeling guilty for not being able to perform as wonder moms


Motherhood and parenting in general are indeed about love, sacrifices, and compromises to bring children in the world and guide them through adulthood. Our participants have been right on point in highlighting these parenting traits.

The world has changed and technological revolutions have allowed women to pursue in the same time professional careers and family life. So many boundaries have moved around, and yet it has become financially more difficult to raise children in single-income home. Women, either to fulfill their dreams or out-of-choice, are now more and more working-moms or full-time students while raisng children.

How to avoid being guilty? Some participants provide insightful steps to deal with this well-known parenting issues.

To Sara Lazare motherhood means, “to raise my children as best as I can so that they can be the best that they can be, filled with joyful memories.”

Mothers are humans, so all they can do is doing their best.  Women have to accept that as human beings they are going to make mistakes along the parenting way. We have to accept these facts, learn and grow from our mistakes and transfer this wisdom to our children.

  • How can you truly love others if you don’t learn to love yourself, take care of yourself?
  • How can you truly forgive others if you don’t learn to forgive yourself and accept that you can make mistakes?

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Millennials and Motherhood: A Total New Venture

How Millennial and Women from the 70’s See Motherhood


You may have heard a lot about millennials! Some even said millennials are a myth. For others, millennials represent a whole new breed of human beings. They completely think and do things differently from older generations.

This Mother’s Day and throughout the month of May, we are inviting different generations of women to confront their thoughts on motherhood. This is our way of celebrating mom and reflect on the colossal job of ‘being a mom’.

First-generation millennials (1981 -1991) and young millennials (1991 – 2001) face older generations of women (1970 – 1980) in a diverse shock of thoughts.

So far, respondents from different countries have shared insightful, honest, and beautiful views on the institution of motherhood.

Discover all these amazing women and read their testimonies.

COMMON TRAITS


Mom’s love is priceless

If I were to put a price on my mother’s love, I would say that she loved us infinity times infinity, and that we love her infinity times infinity, I wouldn’t trade her for the world.”, says Rivka, a young millennial from Boston (USA).

Her statement somehow resonates in all participants’ opinion, whether they were young millennials, second-generation millennials or from older generations of women. When it comes to a mom’s love millennials prove to think just like older generations of women.

They tend to understand that a mom’s job is difficult and that there may be time when a mom doesn’t treat their children as expected, that life can get in the way and cheat kids from some precious mom’s time. But, whatever happened, in the end, moms do what they do out of love.

Sara, a New York mom from the decade 1970–1980 simply sums it up like this, “As humans, of course we get on each other’s nerves, but, the love we share is infinite…”

Finally, Ruth Tania, another young millennial from Ottawa (Canada), explains why a mom’s love is priceless.

“What price can I put on my mother’s love? There is none. I can’t compare my mom’s love. Whatever how many times I have disappointed her, I made her cry, she still loves me, takes care of me. And never loses hope on me. She always wanted the best for me. Even after everyone stops believing in me she remains the one on my side. ”

Reinventing motherhood?

Most participants and particularly millennials believe that motherhood should be reinvented and for various reasons.

Such thoughts clearly echoes with Bing, a first-generation millennial from Toronto (Canada), who believes that “we need to rethink the role moms play in our time“.

“Definitely it should be reinvented, as the world has so overwhelmingly changed. It is no longer the confined environment where moms and kids can stay close without border from the outside. Today, the mass media, and internet and the work-life style have put much pressure on the so-called motherhood, ” adds Bing

For Magdalande, a young millennial from Chicago (USA), it’s also a definite YES. She reasons that “motherhood is outdated because there are some people who still feel that motherhood only applies to the person who gave birth. If we take for example kids that lost their mother at a young age, they could get that motherly from a stepmother, a family member, a teacher, and etc.… who is willing to because it’s not an easy job.”

The idea of rethinking motherhood is also present in many other millennials’ testimonies. Belise, a first-generation millennial from Ottawa (Canada), believes that motherhood is already going through changes. “Being a mother in 2017 is very different from being a mother in the 80’s. Most mothers these days work full-time or are students full-time,” mentions Belise.

For Mimie, a woman from the decade 1970-1980, “motherhood is evolving because there are many women who either choose to become mothers in ways that society may deem non-traditional or decide to not conceive a child for myriad reasons. A woman carrying her own child is a beautiful, magnificent experience to witness and to go through. But, to me, it is just one of many forms: motherhood is about the positive influence a woman has on each child in her life; it’s about giving love in a way that isn’t fleeting—you love, unwaveringly.”

Similarly, Tina, a young millennial argues that “we need motherhood to be more encompassing of working moms, and be more supportive of women who are mothers”.

However some participants agree that motherhood is everything but outdated.  An opinion clearly shared by Rachel Frédérique Bruno, a Florida mom.

“Motherhood would never be outdated. Because, for me, mothers have a common goal: happiness of their children by providing, protecting and caring for them,” says Rachel.

Our participants show that both generations of millennials (1981-1991 & 1991-2001) think that motherhood should be reinvented. Nevertheless, the hope to have children of their own is as present as it used to be in older time. We humans particularly women seem to have this need to transfer our love to another human being, to cherish, protect them and push them in life. Could this be what is called the maternal instinct or parental instinct?

Diversity of thoughts: the meaning of motherhood

When asked what being a mom means to them, there is common thread in participants’ answer: loving and caring.

Motherhood Participants - Decade 1971-1981
Generation of women from decade 1971-1981 – VoiceOasis image

Carolina, a woman from Janeiro (Brazil) who was born during the decade 1971 – 1981, defines motherhood as “a love greater than everything and being a warrior to face all the tribulations of everyday life.”

To other participants, motherhood has also other meanings. For instance, Deisy, a first-generation millennial from Santo Domingo (DR) , compare mom to goddess.

“For me, being a mother is to be a goddess, a goddess who gives birth, whom with love and pain brings a creature to the world to continue the course of generations,” says Deisy (translated from Spanish, see participants’ testimonies for original text.

Cherlyne, a woman from the 1971-1981 generation from Florida (USA), also brings a new perspective to the meaning of motherhood. She sees being a mom as  making sacrifices for your children. “It means being always ready to make sacrifices for the sake of the child (en)’s well-being“, says Cherlyne.

Finally, motherhood is “being a role model for your young ones,” says Mariana, a young millennial. She adds, “If you want to raise good human beings you want to start with yourself.”

We are here confronted to such a diverse array of thoughts when it comes to motherhood. It’s about loving, caring, and making sacrifices for the benefit of another human being. Motherhood is also seen as an institution that surpasses any normal woman or all women put together. It’s about being a warrior or take on a goddess character.

Finally, it is about “Making sure you are a role model and a person that your children can look up to in the future“, to quote Jayneisha, a young millennial from Chicago.

Whatever their stance, millennials and older women alike agree that being a mom is about loving and caring.

  • How do you see motherhood in today’s world?
  • Do you agree with participants’ opinions on motherhood?

Click here for updates on this motherhood project and join the conversation.

Inspirational Moms

Through this exercise we learn that moms are pretty awesome. Most participants confess that they have been inspired by their moms to create a family of their own. On top of that several women mentions having been inspired by both their moms and their grand-ma.

This can be seen through Veronique‘s words, a woman from the 1971-1981 decade.

“My mom and grandmother are the only reason I want to be a mom because I want to share with my kids all that I received from them,” reveals Veronique

Naya, a young millennial from Florida (USA) also think the same way. “Yes, my mother absolutely inspired me to have my own family one day“, confides the young woman.

Josephine, an Ottawan woman from the 1970’s brings a different approach. She admits never even thought about motherhood before she actually became a mom.

“I love (d) mum dearly but never thought about kids that way as I was always independent free-spirited who never saw myself as a mother even after marrying and endured this. When my daughter was conceived, I did not think I was ready or would be as good as mum. My husband and I got my mum to come stay with us to help care for my daughter for the first year and this, was invaluable.”

To conclude, not all women feel inspired to have a family of their own. Some women think motherhood definitely needs to be rethought. And if one day they have children they want their experience to be different from their grand-mothers’ or mothers’ as echoed in Bing’s testimony.

“I have been actually much discouraged by seeing the life my mom has led all these years. It seems to me, she has fired her own life to fuel the operation of whole family, by working every day outside and doing household chores inside. She has no time for herself and becomes quick-tempered and has developed much grudge as time goes by. She seems lost at the fact that why she has done so well as a mom and wife but still not happy at all,” confides the young woman from Toronto (Canada)

Similarly,  other women just don’t want to have children and that’s okay because motherhood should also be about freedom. The freedom to reach deep inside yourself and find out where you truly belong.


Note: This blog will be updated throughout the month of May to include new participants testimony and keep the discussion alive.

Are you a millennial? A women from 1970’s? Are you interested in the topic of motherhood, either in rethinking it or coming back to old values? Join the discussion.

Stay tune for participants complete answers and to find out how millennials’ view on motherhood differ from older generations of women.

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Name-Blind Résumé: What happens if ever we meet face to face


This April, the Liberal Government announced a new recruiting pilot project that aims to ‘reduce unconscious bias’ and increase  minority job seekers’ chance to land a job. As a starter, 6 federal departments will take part in the ‘name-blind’ hiring process to test the effectiveness of such process. However, this initiative raises several disturbing questions!


You have been looking for a job in your field, one that will fulfill your desires and matches your skills. It’s been 5 five years now since your engineering master degree is on your wall. You stop dusting it because it reminds you of all the endless and unsuccessful efforts you’ve put in to find a job where you can finally apply your genius skills in designing software.

As studies show however the chance for a female black candidate like yourself to find such job in Canada is very thin because your name does not sound Anglo enough. You then decide to take a leap of faith and try the new name-blind recruitment policy that the federal government just put in place. You sent a résumé without your name on it. You were also careful enough to change any information that may lead the recruiter to think you are not from the White Anglo majority group.

Oh! Miracle! You just got your first phone call and you’re invited to an interview. Oh! Think God your accent didn’t betray you, you thought. These university years going out with friends have finally paid off. Now you just need to get ready for that interview.

Nevertheless, you can hardly control your nervousness because you cannot help feel like somehow you tricked the recruiter. And you just used the new recruiting policy.

Would they have called you if you haven’t used this recruiting approach?

Will the interview be awkward because they were expecting someone with a different physical appearance?

It’s a good thing you took out your LinkedIn profile photo. Should you do the same for your other social media profiles?

Will they cancel the interview if they find something on the Internet that show them what you really look like?

In all this anxiety, you don’t have the strength nor the time to prepare for your interview tomorrow. Oups!

Welcome to the new proposed color-blind resume policy!

This scenario is purposely far-fetched to portray minority job seekers job hunting experience. It also reflects what U of T Sociology Professor Jeffrey Reitz recommends for the success of such initiative.

“To conduct name-blind screening, he said, recruiters must remove any information on a resumé that would show the ethnicity of the person, such as name, birth place and membership in an association before coding the candidates in the talent pool”, recommends Reitz (the star.com)

The fact is, we live today in the digital age. Even if recruiters, exempt of bias, remove personal information from a résumé, candidates would still have a big job to do in clearing the Internet from any obvious information that can betray their origin.

A very trendy topic

The Canadian Government is now joining the bandwagon to test the success of name-blind recruitment for minority candidates. The advocate of this trendy technique, liberal MP Ahmed Hussen, said in Parliament last year that  “It is crucial that Canadians who have got the grades, skills, and the determination succeed.” (from CBC)

As a matter of fact, ‘resume whitening‘ seems very popular and may have even doubled the chances of  ethnic candidates to receive callbacks as reported by the Guardian. It has been tested in European countries such as France and United Kingdom.

In France, the idea is “to strip résumés of anything that could tip off recruiters to a person’s racial, ethnic and national background or other information that could be used to discriminate — name, age, sex, even residential postal code.” (Washington Post)

Name-blind hiring processes are also in place in the private sector in the US and in the Canadian musical sector.

The Canadian governmental chapter of the name-blind recruitment is in direct answer to a joint study conducted by the University of Toronto and Ryerson University, which proves that Asian candidates have a very less likely chance to receive callbacks after sending out resumes. And it’s all in the name as recruiters will likely throw away resumes with non-anglophone names.

In fact, “applicants with English-sounding names were 35 per cent more likely to get callbacks than those with Indian or Chinese names with similar results in Toronto, Montreal and Vancouver”, said Philip Oreopoulos, a U of T economist who co-authored the study. (Ottawa Citizen)

Six departments will be part of the pilot project: National Defence, Global Affairs Canada, Immigration, Refugees and Citizenship Canada, Public Services and Procurement Canada, Environment and Climate Change Canada and the Treasury Board of Canada Secretariat.

Despite the good intention of this recruiting initiative, it raises uncomfortable questions.

What happens during the phone call if you have a foreign accent?

According to previous tests, your name and other information that may lead to discrimination will be concealed. How exactly this will be done is not sure.

If federal recruiters will be responsible for clearing applications from information that could lead to discrimination, how will the government make sure that recruiters don’t have bias themselves?

Despite this clearing process, how well will this scenario play for you if  you don’t speak like the majority?

How will the so-awaited phone call go?

What happens to candidates with extensive foreign education, work experience, and skills?

Another disturbing concern is on the recognition of newcomers’ foreign credentials and work experience.

What if you are a highly qualified candidate with foreign education and work experience? What if all that can make you suitable for a job is international competences, education, work experiences?

Will the color-blind recruitment process prevent newcomers from finding jobs because adding these important professional skills might reveal their non-Anglo affiliation character?

What will happen to existing measure for minority candidates?

“We hope as the government moves proactively to ensure diversity in hiring it will review the existing program and strengthen it to ensure the intentional inclusion of racialized and indigenous job seekers,” said Debbie Douglas of the Ontario Council of Agencies Serving Immigrants. (thestar.com)

If the government is applying a color-blind hiring policy, how will it affect the policy to facilitate women, people with disability, Natives and people from visible minority group? Will this measure no longer be in force?

How will name-blind recruitment affect cultural diversity?

celebrating ethnic differences and cultural diversity can only be beneficial for a country. Unfortunately, while the proposed bill is acknowledging an unacceptable level of racism in the Canadian society, it is in the same time denying the beauty and benefits of diversity.

Why not promoting foreign skills, the richness of various cultures, the beauty of different accents?

Why not fostering a cultural work environment in which the country can benefit from different ways of doing things?

In this new technological time, diversity is key.

Why not instead coaching recruiting managers to better understand different cultures, ethnicities, to learn more about others and put their fears of anything different at rest?

We hope the questions raised here can help in bettering the recruiting process.

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How I would teach my son to honour and value women

Today is a special day, a day to recognize mothers, wives, sisters, cousins, friends, BFF, colleagues, a day to celebrate women. It’s a day to celebrate life as women bear life and give life.


It is very important to teach the other half of the world how important the role of a woman is for humanity. It is as important as the role of men.

We as women have a duty to ourselves in teaching our sons, our little brothers, our nephews, our little male cousins, our students, our male campers to understand, to respect, and to value women’s role. This teaching is as important for boys as it is for girls.

Women play an important role in the education of boys. A role as important as men’s. It is essential that we as women ensure our kids, our boys are drivers of change. If we want changes tomorrow, we have to start today by infusing the next generation with respect for their mothers, sisters, female cousins, classmates, campers, friends.

As Michelle Obama brilliantly said:

No country can ever truly flourish if it stifles the potential of its women and deprives itself of the contributions of half of its citizens.”

What I would try to instill in my son


  • I would tell my son that women bear life and give birth. They are mothers like me who learnt to love their children more than themselves. I would show my sons how many moms sacrifice themselves everyday to shelter, to feed, to protect, to push their children in life, and to be there for them even when they are miles away from her. I would make him understand that a mom’s love is something irreplaceable. A mom is the foundation of society.
  • I would explain to my son that moms are teachers. They teach life at home, they transfer knowledge at school, they instill fun and life skills at the community centre, they show how to be respectful and humble at church, they create fun and adventures at camp.
  • I would make my son understand that women are equal professionals. They are doctors and nurses who heal body at the hospital and soul at home. They are firefighters who extinguish fires at fire site and soothe flaming tensions and pains at home. They are engineers who design spaceships, conceive earthquake-resistant buildings and infrastructures to withstand quakes and save lives. They are managers, lawyers, politicians, accountants who take daily political, economic, cultural, and social decisions to secure our social institutions, generate economic growth, foster cultural diversity, and protect their nation and the ones they love.
  • I would go on by detailing to my son that women are in every sphere of work and just like men are doing a phenomenal job in contributing to their community’s growth and well-being. Whether they are chefs, cooks, bus drivers, singers, actresses, nannies, pharmacists, secretaries, receptionists, police officers, models, writers, journalists, movie directors, game designers, fashion designers, computer programmers and analysts, architects, archeologists, TV broadcasters, entrepreneurs and so on, their contribution is vital for our society.
  • I would teach my son how to do chores, so he would never think that household chores are women’s work. My son would learn to clean his bedroom, wash and fold his clothes, do the dishes, help clean the house, do groceries and prepare dishes, clean the garden and the backyard.
  • My son would be entitled to the same curfew, bedtime, money allowance that I would give my daughter. He would have to work as much at school and put similar efforts in accomplishing his homework and extra-curricular activities. I would interest my son to both sports and arts as I would do for my daughter. All to teach my son that he is equal to all girls, leading him to realize later on that he is equal to all women. After all, it is in the little detail that we can realize the greatest achievement.
  • Finally, I would make sure to always include respect in the way I am communicating with my son to teach him respect for himself, so he can in return respect others. I would try very hard to transfer to my son respect for all livings, for nature. I would teach my son to love, to love himself and others. Therefore, I would make sure that my son can respect and love his sister or sisters, female classmates, peers, colleagues, wives, and friends. I would ensure that my son is able to honour women everyday.

What I am teaching my daughter


However, I don’t have a son. I have a daughter, so I am trying to teach her everything I would teach my son. I am also trying to teach her to love and be proud of herself, that being a girl and later a woman is awesome. I am trying to instill into my daughter that she can be anything she wants to be as long as she puts the necessary effort to work hard and succeed. I am trying to teach my daughter that everything has a price, that life works like gravity: whatever you throw comes back to you, so she will be able to make careful decisions.

I am treating my daughter like a friend, I am trying to always be there for her when she needs me because I believe that solidarity between women should start at home. Mother-daughter, sisters, cousins, friends.

Yes, I don’t have a son! So, I am calling on all mothers of son to teach their son to respect, love, and value women as they do for themselves.

I am calling on every woman to teach their little cousins, nephews, students, campers to respect women, to celebrate the gift of having a mother, a sister, a cousin or a female teacher who are here for them when needed.

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Chasing sunset: At the crossroads between nature and #tech


It was so beautiful! And it stretched out right in front of us, all around us in an ephemeral vision of a dazzling November sunset. Completely out of this world. We all know that it was there for only minutes, maybe seconds. 

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Living in two worlds: How new #tech is shaping human minds


”I think the main issue of technology to humans is that these devices break up limitations.” – Bing Yao

In this piece the writer  shares her concern in a genuine text that everyone needs to read and reflect on.
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The downside of #tech: Are we all becoming cyborg?


-“301, 301”, the voice kept repeating. I later realized this has become my number, my name in a world of machine.

A visit at an Ottawa’s McDonald has triggered my feeling of loss and scarce towards #tech. A machine that allows you to order your food and pay your bills in the same time. Evolution? Progress? Definitely YES. However, it comes with a looming lack of human contact with a person calling your number as sole conversation. Is there a reason to be concerned?

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Mars: “Where no one has gone before”. What’s in it for mankind?


Did you know that humans visiting other planets is almost a reality? Did you know that the sky isn’t the limit anymore? Check out this video released by the company Space X yesterday to convince yourself.

However, I am wondering what visiting other planets or meeting other intelligent life forms could bring to the advancement of the human race.

“SpaceX Interplanetary Transport System”

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Why Ottawa lovers throw their love down the river

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Have you ever been in love and wished this love to never end? Have you ever dreamed of a happily-ever-after? Well you are certainly not alone. From the dawn of time lovers of all ages have always wished their love to be infinite, to transcend time, which explained all the crazy stuff lovers do. In Ottawa and in many other places around the world there has been a crazy love trend going on: the love-locks.


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Citizen Journalism: When Black Lives Matter and Cellphone Videos Expose Police Brutality

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Lately, cellphone videos have been to black Americans a lifebuoy they draw out whenever an encounter with police occurs. The recordings serve not only as proof, but seem to be the torch of a protest carried by a new generation of black Americans who decide to take action against police violence, against discrimination. It’s citizen journalism at its best.

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Canada Day 2016: Diversity era?

Yesterday was the 149th Canada Day, which to some extent could be considered as a prelude to Ottawa 2017 that will celebrate the 150th anniversary of the Canadian Federation throughout the year 2017. Several events and activities were held across the country. And to no surprise diversity was the hot topic at Parliament Hill.

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The 2016 Canadian Tulip Festival: Lesson learned for a more culturally diverse nation


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Tulip Festival – Alberdeen Pavillon – Lansdowne Park – Ottawa

This Monday has marked the last day of the Canadian Tulip Festival in the city of Ottawa, which was held from May 12th to 23rd 2016 to wrap up with a bright note on Victoria Day. This is a rare opportunity to reflect on the Tulip legacy and government public events in Canada. The  multicultural character of this festival can serve as example for government endeavours.

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6 Shocking Sociopolitical Messages you’ll Never Believe to Find in Zootopia

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Zootopia city – Photo: Bing image

“It’s not about how badly you want something. It’s about what you are capable of” – Zootopia Chief Bogo

When I went to the movies to watch Zootopia recently, it was just like any other family evening out. It was the weekend and we needed a place to take our 9 year-old to, so we looked online and opted for Zootopia since the trailers seemed appealing and there was already such enthusiasm around the movie.

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A Life’s Secret: How Human Connections Lead to Real Success


Very often we are asking ourselves how different our life could have been if we had followed a different path. Every day we are questionning our decisions. What if, what if….

An author had had this call 16 years ago where he was at a path of his life when out of nothing a simple, normal gesture, an everyday decision had changed his life forever: opening the TV.

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We never know where our path can lead us.

Life is a series of decision that we make every second of our lives. Even when we are not always aware of it, every decision we make affects our life and others’. Even simple gesture like drinking a glass of water. This is how Author Mitch Albom had had his life-changing experience.


“All the values that you aspire to in life. All the things you want to accomplish in your life, the lessons you want to teach other people in your life, the legacy you want to leave behind after you leave this Earth can all be done within the family that you create and continue to spread out to the rest of the world long after you’re gone.” – Mitch Albom (Source: Forbes)

In an interview with Forbes, The Moment That Changed Mitch Albom’s Life, Albom shared this wisdom that he had learnt from his late teacher, mentor, and friend, Morrie.

This is an interview full of insights into life itself, a refreshing note on human connection leading to real success.

Albom has raised questions that we ask ourselves everyday. He mentioned that he had seen his teacher on TV, talking about his own upcoming death and that’s how he got reconnected to this friend and mentor after 16 years. That is also how he got to honour a promise that he had not been keeping for 16 years.

If he hadn’t turned on the TV to this specific channel at this exact moment, what would have happened? However, he did and this simple gesture, this everyday choice had turned into a wonderful story, a famous book: Tuesdays With Morrie!

We often question ourselves about decisions we make or don’t make. If I had taken this road, what would have happened to me? If I hadn’t met this person, where would I be today? If I studied something different, if I went to college, if I went on that trip, if I chose a different career path…. So many ifs and we cannot help wonder if a decision or another would have neared us to nirvana.

The interview also offers an open window on life and death. For instance, our reluctance to talk about or to even consider that we are going to die one day. We prefer thinking that we are immortal and act like it, giving us good reasons to ignore others’ pain, others’ feelings.

We act as if we don’t care while inside of us we are so aware of this fact that we are always in a marathon, trying to win as much as we can before the fatal day.

Unfortunately, we are not aware of how much important opportunities we are missing on to be better human beings, to make time for our loved-ones, to make our passage on this Earth worthwhile. We are actually missing on opportunities that could have made us on a successful path, probably on the life path we secretly desire and deserve. We are often oblivious to the fact that helping others result in successful communities.

It is important that we truly ask ourselves how we would like to be remembered and act like it.

The greatest part of the interview is to find out that Morrie had been a teacher and a mentor to Albom even when he had been ignoring him. Morrie had passed on to Albom the greatest teaching of all: the wisdom of life, which is living through the next generation.

We are not immortal, we are here on this Earth right now for a reason. It’s a time to learn, then to teach what we have learnt, to pass on the wisdom to the next generation. It’s important to pay attention to our surrounding, to people next to us. It’s important to value each other. Most of all to confide our knowledge to the future generation. And Mitch believes that your own children is where to start. A family is where to start building the society of tomorrow.

This is not an easy job to learn to pay attention to and to value others as Mitch Albom had learnt himself. It is easier when you have someone, a mentor to teach you the way of life. Needless to say it is a difficult job when you don’t have someone around you can learn from. However, it is not impossible. Read the Forbes interview here for more insights.

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